Frequency Activation: Owning Your Power During Times of Struggle

You can be heartbroken, stressed about money, or stuck in a season that feels slow and still choose the version of you that refuses to collapse. I’m recording from a warm bed on a freezing day in Virginia, sharing the message that hit me at 1 a.m.: you get to decide how you want to feel, and that decision can change everything about your life.

We get into the spiritual law of focus and the practical reality behind it: what you focus on becomes what you notice, what you reinforce, and what you keep experiencing. When your attention stays locked on fear, scarcity, and lack, your emotions spike and your intuition gets cloudy. When you intentionally shift your focus toward possibility and subtle evidence that things are working, you step into a new frequency and access clearer ideas, better solutions, and more self trust. If you care about mindset, emotional regulation, manifestation, and energetic alignment, this is a direct, grounded reset.

I also tell a personal breakup story that taught me what “choosing yourself” actually looks like. It wasn’t toxic positivity. It was a decision in the middle of grief: how I dressed, how I showed up, and how I claimed my power when it was hard. From there we talk about wholeness in relationships, why insecurity creeps in after the honeymoon phase, and how outsourcing power to friends, family, and culture keeps you stuck in old patterns. If this hits, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a lift, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

Transcript

Welcome And Big Life Vision

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Do you ever get the feeling that you're destined for an even bigger, bolder, more magical life? Welcome to the Conscious Glove Up. I'm your host, intuitive energy healer and coach Crystal Ward. My goal is to help you create the life you fantasize about by teaching you energetic spiritual laws of the universe and neuroscience tools. I'll share how I utilize these teachings in my own life with stories of single motherhood, entrepreneurship, finances, and relationships. Let's dive on into the depths of consciousness and glow up from the inside out. Hello, hello. Welcome back to The Conscious Glow Up. This one is brought to you from my bed, my warm and cozy bed. It is March 19th and freezing cold outside. I live in the woods of Virginia in a nice old wooden house, so my nose is running, and I am just keeping cozy upstairs, patiently waiting for spring to arrive. So, what I have for you today for this episode was inspired at one in the morning when last night when I was feeling real activated, real powerful, and in the energy of just owning the fuck out of my life, owning the fuck out of whatever I want to own, my experience, my emotions, how I want to feel in any given moment, about whatever it is that is going on in my life. So I will just get right to the point here for you. You get to choose every single day how you want to feel. But what can be one of the hardest decisions, but the decision that will shift your life more than anything else, is to redirect, reframe how you see your life and how you see yourself in your life, especially when things are not going your way. When things don't feel good or joyful or activating or abundant, what are you choosing to do about that? Are you letting those things, those morning reminders, guide your entire day to feel and experience more of the things you aren't enjoying? Hopelessness, anger, frustration, sadness, feelings that are keeping you in a looped state of fear, scarcity, lack, and honestly just attracting more and more of it because you are stuck in the frequency that created it in the first place? Or are you deciding that because this is your life, that you are the one waking up in your bed, in your home on the road you live on, that you get to choose, even when it's hard, especially when it's hard, to find moments of possibility, moments of happiness, to see even the subtle ways that things are, in fact, working out for you in at least one, if not more, areas of your life. Even if you have to stretch your brain to see it, it is always there. It is just about what we are choosing to focus on. And with the universal spiritual energetic law of focus, what we are focusing on is what we are naturally more aware of. So if you can shift your focus to see what you want to feel more of, experience more of, then really that's how you change your whole life. Because you get to decide what frequency you want to operate out of today, tomorrow, the next day, next week, next month. And it is that frequency that you are choosing to step into, choosing to activate, that is going to bring to your experience more of what you want that comes from that frequency. More joy, more happiness, more fulfillment, more love, more excitement in the unknown, because your emotions are not sky high, clouding your intuition, clouding your judgment. And it is only then that you will pull yourself into the energetic alignment to receive the ideas, the inspirations from your inner self, your wisest self, your heart, the seat of your inner guide, your higher self, your intuition, your biggest gift from source God, your creator, you come into alignment to finding easier solutions to your struggles, to receiving plans and ideas and strategies that light you the heck up. Those ideas that when they hit, you literally feel like you could levitate. I'd wear pajama pants to class. I had these green and gold and white George Mason University plaid PJ pants that were definitely known to place their bottom in a in a in a class or two throughout my actually probably throughout the first two years of college, and then you'll hear this story, and that's kind of where I decided to like stop doing that. But um, you know, so in those times I would wear PJs to class, smoke a lot of weed, drink to numb my pain, bump cigarettes from classmates. I would let the frequency of fear, scarcity, loss dictate how I showed up in my life. Those were choices I would make in those moments. Sometimes moments that lasted days, asking friends for quick activating anxiety medication. But that breakup, that breakup, something in me awakened, something in me, a little nudge from Inner Crystal, wise crystal, something in me chose someone new to embody that day. That day, the morning after the breakup, through tears while staring into my closet, I chose to wear my favorite skirt. It had really cute swirls, it was just like a big colorful skirt, swirls of color all over it, picked out a cute top to go with it, put on a full face of makeup, hoop earrings, bracelets, the works, and my favorite pair of black suede boots. I decided, in a moment of remembering who the fuck I was to wear an outfit that helped me connect with the icon inside of me, connect with the girl who knew she was the rock star of her life, and that is how I chose to walk out into the world that day. I will honestly never forget it ever in my life. And something amazing happened. I actually felt really good that day, and it was kind of surprising. I mean, I I chose the clothes because I was like, you know what, I I want to look good. I don't feel good, but I want to look good. And I felt good, but not because I was wearing my favorite skirt, not because I felt hot, but because when I chose to wear clothes that I loved, I knew that I was deciding to feel good. And not in one of those toxic positivity ways. I still let myself feel the grief when it came up later, you know, when I was alone at home, but in a way of I am choosing to own my day by owning how I want to feel externally in those clothes, because I knew that those external adornments would also affect me internally. I was choosing to own my frequency. I was choosing to own how I wanted to show up in my life. And I chose to go out in the world feeling powerful in my body instead of feeling rejected, sad, and hopeless because some guy who lived two hours away from me decided that he no longer wanted to be my boyfriend. And from then on, I chose every day to feel activated, lit up from within, even though I was going through something that really crushed my heart. I still chose me instead of choosing to spend all my energy on him. Two weeks later, he told me he had made a huge mistake. And I know why. I know why he came back. Because energy is a powerful force. Energy has the ability to redirect how the world and other people respond to you. Energy and intuition are both unseen forces. My ex was subconsciously, intuitively picking up on the fact that I was choosing myself, and that had activated my power, which is magnetic, and that I had activated feeling so good on my own that he wanted me back. Because in choosing myself in those small moments throughout my day, when choosing to step into a higher frequency every time I woke up, I had surpassed the feeling of need to be with him because I felt whole on my own. I felt so lit up by who I was choosing to be. In choosing myself for those two weeks before he came back, I learned how to feel whole from within, which I will admit I did not feel whole while with him. So because of that, he ended it with me for the same reason he asked for me back, because of the subconscious, intuitive energy he had been picking up from me. When we don't feel whole within ourselves, our partners will also feel like we are lacking something. We aren't consciously deciding that our partner isn't feeling whole. It's part of that unseen energy that radiates off our body, and it is the literal electromagnetic field, which acts like a script, our own personal script, that we send out to the world, that the world intuitively picks up from us and it has to act it out. When we aren't choosing ourselves, when we aren't activating ourselves from within, when we are letting our boyfriends, girlfriends, or bank account numbers dictate how we feel about ourselves, we are not feeling whole. We then choose to fill that space, which is natural, by accessorizing our life with external validations such as relationships or with external substances like weed and beer. And you know when you're single, like the good kind of single, you feel so great on your own. You're getting attention from people, you feel vibrant, magnetic, you're getting really good sleep, you're filling your life up with things that excite and fulfill you. You're not even looking for a partner because you feel so good on your own, and then someone amazing shows up, so you go all in. And then after a few months, your insecurities magically pop up out of nowhere. And then it starts. The feelings of lack, feelings of not being good enough, and that is where the relationship starts to suffer because the other person is now picking up on the script you have about yourself, the script of I am lacking something. And that is why this happens, and that is why my boyfriend broke up with me. Okay, so that two weeks later, I got back with him. But I remember a coworker telling me that you can cut down a tree and plant a new tree in its place, but it will not be the same tree. And for some reason that has stuck with me forever since then. And he was right, because we did not stay together for more than two weeks. I had realized that when my ex cut down our tree, I planted my own seed in its place, a seed that helped me activate feelings of self-worth on my own, feelings of I am worth it, I am enough, feelings of wholeness on my own without needing somebody else to activate it for me when I was feeling low. I had created from a space of heartbreak what I'd previously only known how to create from that free, magnetic, feel-good single space. But in that breakup, I learned how to activate my power in times of difficulty, in times when it was hard to choose that version of myself, but I did it anyways. I connected deeper to my true essence. I activated a badass who, for the first time in my life, I could really deeply powerfully feel because I was choosing her. Warriors are not created in times of peace. They are created in times of struggle. That month-long period was so crucial to my growth because it helped me see that through the rain, there was always sunshine somewhere, and if I can't feel the sunshine on my skin at the moment, I can still channel the feeling that the sunshine gives me, and that was all I needed. I was making the decision to choose me, to choose how I wanted to feel. I was choosing how I wanted to feel every single day during the grief period, and because I continued to choose me, the grief period ended sooner than any grief period from a breakup I'd ever experienced before. And that is why the two weeks after getting back with him, I had just I'd been over it. I I went through so much. I I I don't just because I prioritized that and not him, I easily got over him. So I realized, okay, this is definitely a different tree, and you know, maybe I'll see you in another life. I have been able to carry that power with me ever since. Some days it can be easier to activate than other days, depending on what is happening in my life, but the difference now is that I know it is always in there and I can choose it at any time. And I'm talking about that power when shit is hard, that power when my business feels like it is not fucking moving, or that power when I do feel like I am lacking something in my relationship, or there are rumors about me at work. There is that power that does not come easily when shit's hard, but that power that that I know is there and I I get to activate it anytime I want. So now during breakups, when potential clients back out of working with me, when my bank account dips lower than I'd like it to, I never let those moments bring me down long enough to forget who the fuck I really am. Everything in life is a decision. Nobody can tell you how to feel in your circumstance or in your life. Nobody can tell you what to do with your life. They can try, oh, they'll try. You know, one of my favorite quotes is don't let somebody who hasn't done it tell you how to do it. It can feel very easy to rely on the world to tell you how you should be feeling about something or what to do with your money or your time or your energy, or if you should or should not make a business or a life decision, because we are programmed from a young age to listen to others, to seek external suggestions because self-trust, what is that? Outsourcing power becomes a crutch. If Bob is buying shots and the gang is cheering me on to take one, to forget about my ex for the night, but I haven't drank in six months and I really don't want to, I don't have to take the shot. If Jennifer is creating a live 21-day challenge for her business and she's telling me how successful it always is for her for bringing in new clients, but the thought of creating a live 21-day event makes my stomach turn into a brick, my chest tighten up, I can't breathe, and my brain spirals, I don't have to run a live 21-day challenge. If my sibling is getting a college degree in IT and my parents are urging me to do the same so that I can have a stable future, but everything in me tells me to invest in my full body love for learning how to paint, but the world tells me I won't make any money as an artist, I don't have to learn IT. And I can decide to advance my artistry because I get to decide where I will be successful in life because I know that success follows joy. I get to decide that if I want to be an artist and that that is what will light me the fuck up every single day, then I get to decide to follow that intuitive voice that was planted in me for a reason. And as easy as it can be to listen to the advice of other people, even when it goes strongly against what we feel to be true inside, it can be just as easy to rely on our own old ways of navigating life, of navigating hardship, of navigating breakups, of navigating low money in the bank, of navigating a business that feels like it's fucking failing. But we don't have to continue to choose our old ways of processing pain, frustration, anger, sadness, fear, because there are always multiple new ways of navigating life that are available to you. You just have to make the decision to let yourself access them by choosing to step into a frequency that will align you to them. Start small, be intentional, love on you, prioritize you, and the world will love on and prioritize you too. Okay, let that one soak in. Listen to it a couple of times because it is a transmission meant to help raise your frequency with its activation. Take care, and we will talk soon.